burned biscuits (don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket. keep it in your own)

Burned Biscuits.... (forwarded by someone)

When i was a little boy, my mom liked to make breakfast food
for dinner every now and then.

And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast
after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs,
sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad.
I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!
Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit,
smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night,
but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit
and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening,
I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits.
And I'll never forget what he said: "Baby, I love burned biscuits."

Later that night, I went to tell Daddy good night
and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned....
He wrapped me in his arms and said,
"Your Momma put in a hard day at work today
and she's real tired.
And besides - a little burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"

You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best either.

What I've learned over the years
is that learning to accept each other's faults -
and choosing to celebrate each other's differences -
is one of the most important keys
to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today.
That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life
and lay them at the feet of God.
Because in the end,
He's the only one who will be able to give you a relationship
where a burnt biscuit isn't a deal-breaker!

As understanding is the base of any relationship,
be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket -
keep it in your own."

tazkirah pg jumaat

Telah bersabda Nabi Muhamad SAW yang maksudnya:
" Ada empat perkara yang berharga dalam diri manusia dan dia boleh hilang dengan empat perkara juga.

Adapun yang berharga itu ialah...Akal, Agama, Malu dan Amal soleh.
Maka....
1. Akal boleh hilang disebabkan marah.
2. Agama boleh hilang disebabkan dengki.
3. Malu boleh hilang disebabkan tamak.
4. Amal soleh boleh hilang dan terhapus disebabkan suka menceritakan
keburukan orang lain.

Manusia akan menghadapi empat penarikan antaranya:-

1. Malaikat pencabut nyawa akan menarik rohnya.
2. Para ahli waris akan menarik hartanya.
3. Ulat akan menarik tubuhnya.
4. Orang yang dimusuhi @ dianiayai akan menarik barang kepunyaannya di
hari kiamat iaitu AMALNYA.

Dari Ali r.a yang bermaksud: Sesungguhnya amalan yang paling sulit adalah empat macam:

1. Memberi maaf pada waktu marah.
2. Suka memberi pada waktu susah.
3. Menjauhi yang haram pada waktu sunyi.
4. Mengatakan yang hak kepada orang yang ditakuti atau kepada orang yang
diharapkan sesuatu darinya.

Dari Hatim Al-Asom yang bermaksud: Empat perkara yang hanya diketahui oleh empat jenis orang akan nilainya iaitu:

1. Nilai masa muda hanya diketahui oleh orang tua-tua @ orang lama).
2. Nilai kedamaian hanya diketahui oleh orang yang pernah ditimpa bencana@musibah.
3. Nilai kesihatan hanya diketahui oleh orang-orang sakit.
4. Nilai kehidupan hanya diketahui oleh orang-orang yang telah mati.

Wallahualam

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON???

Something to read n ponder?...forwarded to me by a dear cousin...


Those who are still single may learn something from here... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?' Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner .
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy.
It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage,
the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),
touch is not always welcome (when it happens),
and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage,
you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love
and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?'
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had,
you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages breakdown.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love.
You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws,
the results are predictable... you can 'make' love. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling. Remember this always: 'God determines who walks into your life.
It is up to you to decide who you let walk away,
who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

kenduri Ajib n Aya

last weekend aku balik kpg utk menghadiri walimah anak saudaraku Ajib. aku cuma sempat menghadirkan diri utk majlis kendurinya aje. majlis nikahnya pada 16/10/09 x sempat aku nak join sbb byk keje & x leh nak amik cuti. sabtu pg tu bergegaslah aku balik kpg sbb nak ikut rombongan ke sebelah umah Aya si pengantin perempuan. mujur x jauh sgt dr umah kitorang. dlm 1/2 hour dah sampai. kat umah Aya tu kaler temanya adalah hijau. kitorang plak bertemakan kaler biru. blues sana-sini la jawabnya. bila group kitorang dtg jd tenggelam la plak pengantin sbb kitorang dah curik their limelight. hahaha... nak wat caner dah anak cucu tokdin sume nyer gila glamer. bak kata org Perak 'nyegholang' je masing2.

esoknya tu majlis di pihak kitorang plak bertemakan kaler purple. perghh.. jauh tu kitorang beli kain lace utk dibuat baju. masa liburan di Jakarta & Bandung dulu sempat kitorang grab kain utk dibuat pakaian sedondon. bajunya je la sama. kainnya ikut suka masing2. kenduri di pihak kitorang dibuat di dewan yg fully air-condition. so, takdelah panas & berkuap bila bergaya dgn kain lace & satin tu. masing2 npk cool & control ayu je. hehehe.. kalo wat kat umah haruslah basah kuyup. dah la musim panas melanda. ramai gak yg tertanya2 kat mana kitorang dptkan kain lace yg agak bergemerlapan tu. hehehe... kepada sesiapa yg teringin tu silalah dapatkannya di Tanah Abang, Jakarta. tapi haruslah bawa byk uang nya ya. mcm2 bole supin kat sana.

kalo berhajat nak tgk gambo yg lain2 bole jenguk di http://nacha252.multiply.com

jamuan raya at The Zon

punya la concentrate mkn sampai x sempat nak berposing... lg pun takde org yg bergambar pun. kang takut org kata mcm jakun/prak plak. mcm org x penah gi hotel. at last amik gambo kat brochure je la. hehehe...
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di penghujung syawal ni x abis2 lg dgn jemputan open house. ada yg sempat aku jengah & ada yg tak. biasanya gi open house je. tapi kali ni aku memenuhi undangan di hotel la plak. jadinya lps office hours td aku bersama As & Mona pun berangkat la ke situ. actually ni la untungnya bila slalu wat room reservation kat hotel. kalo ada apa2 function musti dpt jemputan punya. bulan posa ari tu pun ada yg panggil. tapi aku x sampai ati nak tinggalkan bebudak tu buka posa tanpa aku disisi mereka. kali ni aku teringin nak gi hotel The Zon ni sbb x pernah lg ke situ. ye la kan. 1 ketika dulu sgt la popular hotel ni bila sorang selebriti tu wat press conference/announcement ttg majlis perkahwinan dia kat situ. plak tu pasangannya plak mmg 1 of the shareholder kat situ. masa dia mula2 kawin pun dia stay kat situ gak. teringin la nak tgk hebat sgt ke hotel tu. tgk2 biasa je. takde la exclusive sgt. cumanya dia betul2 dlm area 'golden triangle'. harganya sendiri mau ingat la. tapi makanan yg disajikan not bad. ada nasi briyani, ayam tandoori, sate, sambal sotong, kari ikan, kuah lodeh/lontong, rendang daging, pecal & kuah kacang. minumannya selain dr teh tarik adalah sirap bandung & ABC. ari tu masa staff dr Sabah office stay kat situ dia ada complaint yg makanan kat situ x sedap. tapi aku rasa ok je. may be masa dia stay kat situ dlm bulan posa. masa bekpes tu x byk choice la kot. mungkin juga makanan yg sedap2 dihidang waktu berbuka posa je. dia kan non-muslim. sabo je la. emmm.. bagai nak pecah perut kitorang mkn. tapi sian kat As. x sempat dia nak mkn dah talian hayat dia berbunyi. dia pun terpaksa mengundur diri. tinggallah aku dgn Mona lepak kat situ. mula2 aku dah fed-up. kata start kol 6pm. tapi dah 6.30pm pun tak mula lg. kol 6.45pm baru dia jemput mkn. apa lagiii.. sume org pun serang la. lps maghrib & pewot pun kenyang aku pun berangkat pulang dgn Mona. sebelum tu usha2 gak kot selebriti tu ada dtg dgn pasangannya. tapi x npk bayang pun. hehehe...

raya gathering with JS at SR

ahad - 4/10/09 : geng UB & GK telah berkumpul di Secret Recipe utk sesi berkenal-mesra bersama Khairyn Othman. beliau adalah penulis JS yg sedang bercuti raya di Malaysia. kami juga dpt surprise gift dr JS iaitu novel terbaru dr Ruby Hazri bertajuk Percayalah.. Akhirnya. Thanks a lot JS. novel ke3 Ruby Hazri dilahirkan pada ulang tahun JS ke3. Selamat Puja Usia yg ke3 utk JS. semoga JS akan bertambah murah rezeki & diberkati. amin... meriahnya bila ramai yg dtg dgn memakai baju raya. cantik2 belaka semuanya. baju Nicky la yg paling bergemerlapan & 'bling2'. hehehe..

office raya celebrations at KDE

Irfan kena dera menari lagu crazy frog.... hehehe...

ari sabtu - 3/10/09 my office celebrated raya festival kat Kelab Darul Ehsan (KDE). ramai gak staff yg hadir bersama ahli keluarga masing2. meriah sungguh bila pelbagai aturcara dijalankan. budak2 yg paling happy sgt sbb ada clown yg organise pelbagai games selain dr magic show, dpt duit raya & hadiah juga. bila tgk anak2 happy kita pun rasa sgt seronok. bukan senang nak kumpul ramai2 ni. berbulan gak kitorang plan acara ni. pd mulanya nak wat acara buka posa. but, due to unforeseen circumstances terpaksalah dibatalkan & digantikan dgn acara jamuan hari raya. ok la tu. drpd takde apa2. harap2 acara sebegini akan berterusan di masa akan dtg.